03/04/24
You make an…
You know the rest lol.
We’ve all done it before…
Assumed what someone else wanted…
Assumed your interpretation of what someone said is what they really meant…
And it didn’t work out in your favor.
Oftentimes…
We jump to assumptions that someone has malicious intent…
When it has absolutely positively NOTHING to do with you.
So…
Be careful when making assumptions…
And know that sometimes…
The other person’s perspective may be different than yours.
Now…
I know that you want to know how to address this properly…
And it’s simple as 1…2…3.
#1. Assume POSITIVE Intent
Rarely are people out to get you.
It may feel that way…
They may say some harmful words that affect you…
But it’s almost always not intended to be an attack on you.
So instead of assuming that people are “bad”, “evil”, or “selfish”…
Assume that the person is doing their best.
Now if the behavior is harmful…
You have the right to protect yourself.
But don’t jump to the assumption that they mean to hurt you.
#2. Ask
Don’t be afraid to ask.
There’s a saying….
“When in doubt…ASK.”
There’s no harm in asking…
And clarifying what they really mean.
Don’t allow the fear of a negative response keep you from asking.
#3. Listen (With Your FULL Attention)
Now that you’ve asked questions…
Be prepared to listen…
With eyes and ears wide open.
Learn to be completely present with the person you’re listening to…
And understand where they’re coming from.
Avoid projecting your judgments…
Fears…
Or desires as you listen.
Be EMPTY as you listen.
Listen with your full attention and whole heart.
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Communication is the most effective way to avoid incorrect assumptions, misunderstandings, and confusion.
By implementing these 3 steps…
You will not only gain more confidence…
But also influence through an effective way of communication…
Which will help you grow both personally and professionally.
Rooting for you,
Jay (inviting you to assume positive intent)