02/12/24
“’No’ is a complete sentence.” ~ Anne Lamott
Yes, you read that right.
No means NO!
So many of my clients struggle with setting boundaries…
And it’s because they refuse to say this two-letter word with conviction.
At times…
You have to say it…
You have to be firm with it…
You have to establish those boundaries.
AND…
It’s okay to say it without an explanation.
People have to respect your decision.
You may tell me…
“Jay, I say ‘Yes’ because I want to avoid conflict, I just don’t want to deal with the headache.”
My response…
What conflict you will have for yourself if you say “Yes”?
What time will you lose and never get back?
What mental or emotional anguish will result from saying “Yes”?
What happens to you if you don’t know say ‘NO’?
You jeopardize your overall well-being…
Your sanity…
Which leads to…
Stress…
Anxiety…
And worse…
Depression.
You don’t want that to happen to you, right?
That’s why you must add the word “No” to your vocabulary.
Saying “No” can be an act of self-care…
Of protecting two of your most precious resources…
Your well-being…
And your TIME.
When you say “Yes” to something…
You’re saying “No” to something else.
Do you want to say “No” to your well-being?
Do you want to say “No” to time with your family?
Do you want to say “No” to your happiness?
So say “Yes” to those things…
By saying “No” to others.
Say “No” as much as you need to…
So you can say “Yes” to a better life.
Rooting for you,
Jay (encouraging you to say “No” a LOT this week)